The word “down-size” has a negative connotation. When people hear it, they think of losing one’s job or having to live a lesser life. I guess I felt the same way about the word in years’ past. However, my mind-set around that has changed.
I wasn’t born with a silver spoon in my mouth. Yes, there was always food, shelter and even some luxuries as well but I certainly didn’t grow up well off. My dad and Granny were strong money managers and could stretch a dollar in ways you wouldn’t imagine. That’s what I learned, work hard and spend wisely.
About 10 years ago, I had the opportunity to build what could be considered a “dream” house. I was able to put special touches on it and make it my own. It was/is a lovely home. People would say kind things to me about it and that always made me smile, but I never really lost sight of the fact that it was just bricks and siding and with the whim of my employer, I could be led right out of that place, with a bandana tied to a stick. Big houses often times equal Big bills and after awhile, that’s all it represented to me. Thanks to the lessons from my parents, I could still vacation and buy a pair of pants from time to time, but I began to feel that there were different things I wanted out of life.
I have started to truly value experiences over “things.” I want to pick up and head to my new fave, St. Thomas on a whim. I want to get weekly massages (yep, I said weekly). I want to treat my friends more often. I want to travel with my children and give them new perspectives and views on life. I want to set up strong college savings for my little boys and help my daughter buy her first house in a few years. I want someone else’s hands in my hair and on my nails on a VERY regular basis. I want to buy gourmet groceries and drink expensive alcohol. I want to (maybe :)) work with a personal trainer to work off the cupcakes I refuse to give up. I want to donate more. I don’t want to just live, I want to THRIVE.
As we know, everything comes with a sacrifice, but sometimes the sacrifice is too large. I wear a lot of hats and I must say, I’ve decided that I REALLY want to play as hard as I work. Yes, life is too short and we could be gone tomorrow but in addition to that, there’s just SO much to see and do and God willing, I plan to see and do it.
No one will EVER be able to take away a phenomenal memory, the affect that a certain smell will have on you, recalling the look of wonder on your child’s face when they see something new. And “things” don’t matter at all if you don’t have good health and peace of mind.
Having snatched a bit of the traditional American Dream of a decent salary and a comfortable home, I’ve begun to think outside the box and am planning to enjoy more of life, with less encumbrance. I’m smiling thinking about it. 🙂
As always, thanks for reading.