Do you ever ponder why some people choose just the right mate and you keep dating people who could easily be featured in an upcoming Dateline episode? Maybe you’re like me and see women flounce around in outfits out of the pages of InStyle, while you lean toward being a bit too matchy matchy and find yourself in the same black slacks twice a week.
It’s human nature to compare yourself to others and often when we do that, we decide that we’ve come up short. We talk to ourselves like a dog in the street.
I’m guilty of this too. “Why do you keep making poor choices, Nikki? Why can’t you keep exercising? Why are you procrastinating? Why aren’t you a better mother, granddaughter, friend”…and the list goes on and on. I did that for all of my 30s and had let that pointless mindset enter my 40s. Then something interesting happened…
Even though folks tell you not to rely on validation from others to determine your worth, sometimes it can help you down the path of self love if you’re struggling. As more and more very generous people (many times strangers) took the time to tell me that they were inspired by the NMW journey, I started to see myself through a more positive lens. I started to think, ” Yes, I’ve made some missteps but I’ve done a lot right too.” And you know how it is when you finally get an A, you keep wanting to get them because you know you can.
Please give yourself a break. Talk to yourself kindly. YOU are the one that is garnering comments like, “Why can’t I be like HIM/HER?” You have SO many strengths and gifts that it’s crazy.
Today commit to focusing on your Pros and not your Cons.
Thank you for reading,