I’ve mentioned many times before that this wasn’t really my
plan. I’m talking about the biz owner life. I never had a lemonade stand. I
never sold Avon or Tupperware.  In my
family, you went to work, got your check, paid your bills and saved a lil to go
to Wildwood in the summer. I was the first to earn a college degree on my mom’s
side so that was already doing things a bit differently.  My dad pushed achievement but never entrepreneurship.
It just wasn’t our thing. I was 100% cool with that, as it was all I knew.
Almost 8 years ago that changed. I had an idea that would
launch three years later and change the trajectory of my life. It would expose
me to new people, I’d never have known without this idea/product. It exposed me
to situations that would have passed me by and I would have been fine with that
because I wouldn’t have known any better.
All the while, I’ve been working my 9 to 5. When things
really started heating up with the invention, I got promoted at work and was
VERY excited and determined to do a great job as a 1st time manager.
I know what I’m doing. I’ve done it now for 23 years and I’m good at it. The
biz owner life was uncharted territory. I didn’t know anything.  I had to learn every single thing. I got
stuff wrong. Messed it up. While it was thrilling, it was also nerve-wracking.  I like comfort, low risk. I want to do my 8
and head on home. This life is different. It requires constant action. Don’t
feel like pushing that day, guess what? There will be NO deposits.
Kind people have ask me when I’m giving my two weeks’ notice
at my 9 to 5 since things have been moving along with the biz. I used to say, “Oh,
you never know! Soon!” This was just a polite answer because I understood that
they were asking out of excitement for me. Now, if I’m asked, I say, “Oh, I’m
happy there. I have more work to do. I’m not going anywhere for a while.” Like
everyone, I’ve got the normal bills, plus tuition, etc. But also, I’ve got a
commitment to the work that I do during the day, from Monday to Friday. It’s
one of the reasons that I’m so proud of that book. Writing it gave me the
opportunity to get that experience on some pages; to live a multi-layered life.
We ALL have gifts in many areas and I wouldn’t have been satisfied with my
journey if I’d left it in my brain and never shared it.
So, while working for one’s self is the end game for many,
the REAL end game is living the life you want. The one that brings you peace
and soaring joy. When you know yourself, truly know yourself, then you’ll make
choices that speak to and enrich every aspect of your life. There is no shame
in doing what feels safe and comfortable. It doesn’t mean that you aren’t cut out
for greatness. It means that you’ve searched your soul and in knowing yourself,
you’ve made the best choice for you.


There are rich rewards for living the life you’ve honestly,
fearlessly chosen. This is one of MANY areas where what others think means
ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Do what you want. Live a life you love. That’s all that really matters.